Miles apart

Good morning.” she says.

Good night my love.” his reply.

Two people in two different time zones. Two people in two different country.

Two people that beats only one love.

It was 21st of June when she said yes to be in a relationship. She never thought of the future until she has to face it. The day drew near that the man she loves has to leave to work abroad. She felt the weight of her decision then, thinking of how this relationship will work being apart from each other.

The man constantly messaged her even while he’s at work. All the time that they’re both awake, it is as if they weren’t miles apart. During the man’s off work, it has always been a day for them to talk via video call. Talk about the week, about the work, about their dreams and ends it with hope. For months it has been a routine until their means of video call has been banned on the man’s part.

She felt sad of what is to come but the man stayed positive. He continuously messaged her, sent her photos and videos. Devoted his time and guaranteed her of the future they had planned. It is enough at the moment and both are still happily struggling in this relationship.

This is when the woman realised:

  • Love is the reason why both people keep in touch.
  • Love is the reason why both people stay strong in a relationship.
  • Love is the reason why both people trusts each other.
  • Love is the reason why both people sacrifice time and effort.
  • Love is the reason why both people choose to stay in a relationship even factors of disrupting the communication arise.
  • Love is the reason why both people stay happy amidst the distance.
  • Love is the reason why both people dilutes their fears.
  • Love is the reason why both people hope that this situation will end soon.
  • And lastly, His love (being at the center) is the reason why both people stay, cherish each moment be it good or not so good or even at bad times, never wavered in their fidelity and chooses to love more beyond the flaws of each other.

Difficult? Yes!

In doubt? No.

Do you still love him? Yes.

Even in this long distance relationship? Irrevocably and most ardently yes!!

“so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ,”

Ephesians 3:17-18 NIV

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”

1 John 4:18 NIV


Love-RN no more.

Today was just any ordinary day with extraordinary revelations. I still talk about him with some of my friends whom I know will not tease me. Gladly, she just listened to me. As we talk about our lives including our career, faith and singleness, eventually he came out of my mouth.

I narrated my first ever hang out with him and some of our friends from the hospital. Minute that passes by gave me reasons to drop the feelings I have for him. And just a while ago, I declared that this will be the last day I’ll talk about him.

Lessons learned:

  • A woman doesn’t need to beg for a man’s attention.
  • A woman should never draw her identity from a man.
  • A woman must be pursued, and the man should be able to lead her.
  • Both must be complete in Jesus’ love before committing in a relationship.

Beauty from Ashes

February 14, 2017
Valentine’s day. One whole day to celebrate love, confess affection, commit a relationship, pledge engagement, vow in marriage. And mostly, this day was stereotyped for couples while single men and women were left alone. 

A couple of my friends from work decided to celebrate this day in a different way, to trek Mt. Pinatubo. A dormant volcano since 1991 located in the borders of Pampanga, Tarlac and Zambales. It was coined as the second largest eruption of the 20th century. (All informations were gathered from our local guides.)

A day off from scrub suits

We arrived in Tarlac quarter to seven in the morning, and the usual routine of hikers were to register names and sign waivers. Each 4×4 vehicle was able to cater four to five hikers and we started to track the fields of ashes which took us one hour and a half until the drop off point while being escorted by some military vehicles (carrying unused explosives, a bit scary😱). 

Panoramic sand view


Capturing the experience
My first 4×4 ride 🚗

Stairs were made to reach the lakeside, our local guides’ kindness brought us blankets were we can use to sit upon and have our lunch. Brief narration of this historical event was provided by Sir Eric, leaving me more astounded. To our surprise, they even handed out a single stemmed fake red rose, a cut out heart and a small bar of chocolate for us, specifically our group (single women).

Hardest part of the hike

🎶what treasure waits within Your scars. This gift of freedom gold can’t buy. I bought the world and sold my heart. You traded heaven to have me again.

This part of the song reminded me of one particular scripture, in Romans 5:8, but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Someone has to die to pay for our sins, a blood must be spilled to cleanse us from our transgressions and a Father gave his one and only Son to save mankind. All these pointed us back to the love of a Father.

Maybe, you are struggling right now with your relationship to your family, a friend or partner. Or you are having difficulties of self acceptance, believing that you are unworthy of love, experiencing insecurities, that God forgot you because you are still single or maybe each day you are still stuck with the problems you have. To tell you the truth, negativities, disaster, problems and illness will always be here in this broken world. But Jesus said while crucified on the cross, “It is finished.” You are now hidden in His righteousness, at that moment you are now called a child of God. This is called grace, a gift freely given to everyone. This is me saying He is calling out to you, extending His arms to receive you.

I am standing on the ashes from the eruption, tears leaking, arms wide open and pouring out my heart to thank our Father for His goodness, graciousness and greatness.

Let me encourage you with another verse, in Psalm 145:8, the Lord is rich in love. In him there is no shortage of love, because it is abundant, infinite and precious.